QUESTION #1 “Before my husband and I got married, I always heard the comment, “He’s going to want sex ALL the time.” Well, here we are a couple years in and I feel I want initiate sex way more than my husband does. It doesn’t matter how many times I bring up my concerns, nothing changes. Recently, we decided to start trying to start a family & my husband has had a hard time ejaculating. It has been insanely hard to not take it personally. My question is - what is the best way for me to navigate my negative experiences with my sexual relationship with my husband and move forward in a positive light?” QUESTION #2 “I have struggled with premature ejaculation for years. Kegels do nothing. Trying to “calm down” doesn’t work very well, but maybe I haven’t done it right? If I try to reach climax a few hours before it sort of works, but isn’t ideal, especially for spontaneous stuff. What can I do?”
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois. She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. In addition to her dissertation research on LDS women's sexuality and relationship to desire, she has taught college level human sexuality courses. Her teaching and coaching focuses on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to consultation with couples and individuals (in person and online), she offers online relationship and sexuality courses as well as live workshops and retreats for LDS couples and individuals.
Jennifer is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts and write articles for LDS-themed blogs and magazines, on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health and faith.